Still in WI, now only with Ravonne. We went to the store today to buy some stuff, just a thank-you for everything the Haleys have done for us this past week. We were looking for something to give when I came up with the idea of giving them two things, one now and another later for funsies. Ravonne did not like that idea.
It was weird because for the life of me, I couldn’t understand why she was so against that. And that’s when I realized that people do money differently. To me, it seemed perfectly reasonable to give someone a tiny gift now and then a bigger gift later. To me, it seemed like that would be more exciting and surprising and awesome and cute. But to her it just seemed wasteful and unnecessary.
Now that I think of it though, I wonder if I’m actually one of few people who finds that thoughtful. Maybe most people would actually think it’s a little ridiculous to give someone two gifts at two separate times. Hmm, I wonder.
Well, whatever the case, I think this will be a good lesson for me to remember in the future. When it comes to money, it’s not just a question of how much debt someone has or how much they like to spend or save, it’s also important to know how much people want to give and to whom they’d like to give it. For instance, I don’t like to give random money to strangers or groups. Even if I support the message, I’d much rather invest in something long-term. I like to be able to make a continuous/lasting impact with my money. I also like to buy things for people. If I see something someone would like, I usually just buy it if I can afford it. I like to give things to people. And letters. I like to give letters to people. And cards.
Fortunately, not everyone is like that. That works great for the economy but it makes things a little bit more difficult for times when money is being shared.